Planning an Interfaith Wedding: The Ceremony

Crafting. I’ve been super busy with it lately, but I’ve stepped it up even more because I’m thinking about getting a part-time job to help finance this shindig and am worried that I won’t have enough time to add all those thoughtful touches if I don’t knock them out while I have the time. That being said, I’ve been doing a lot of pre-crafting so that when the time comes for some of this stuff that is time sensitive (like programs and place cards) a lot of the heavy-lifting (read: tedious details) will have been done.

Today I set off on tentatively designing a program since work has calmed down a little and I remembered that I have some super cute custom (and free!) monograms and crests from As I’m pulling this together, I get to the page where I have to list the order of the proceedings and it made me stop. I get down the aisle, but then what? What do we say? What do we do? Typically there are vows and I do’s. There’s a kiss. But isn’t M Jewish? What about the wine, and don’t they break a glass at some point?

I began furiously googling the specifics of the Jewish wedding. I was raised Christian, and we are getting married in our Unitarian Universalist church, so there’s 3 religions right there. Can we fit them all in? And what do we WANT to fit in? I knew that although we plan to continue attending the UU church and that we plan to raise our kids there, we want them to know the major principals of both the religions we were raised with. I know that I want my kids to respect the tradition and heritage or religion, especially when it comes to M’s Judaism. It became a little clearer that we wanted to include many of the Jewish wedding traditions so that our children would know that we upheld specific traditions by choice because they were what meant most to us. Now for the messy part – figuring out HOW to include this stuff.

I took to facebook and asked my friends what they thought on some of my ideas, particularly reordering a few things so that M would NOT see me before the walk down the aisle, something that typically doesn’t happen in Christian weddings but does in Jewish ones. Their general consensus was this: do what you want. Nobody thinks that we’ll be stepping on toes or dishonoring the traditions. M even commented that he thought his mother would be pleased that I am so open to including so much Jewish ceremony.

Once I accepted the fact that God (or my future mother-in-law) wasn’t going to strike me down for switching some things up, the program went much smoother. I still need to put in some notes to explain some of the traditions to guests, but things are looking up. Now if I can only find a place that will sell me a gross of yarmulkes for under $40. Oh we go. And no, our kitties will not be decked out in yarmulkes!

Thanks for reading! – A

March 30, 2011. Tags: , , , , , . 2011. Leave a comment.

Time to Catch Up – October

In the attempt to bring you back up to speed, here’s a bit about October. First things first, I had my first appointment with Dr. Meilhan at Temple Hospital since the post-surgical follow-ups. He said everything was going great, but I was concerned that there hadn’t been any bumps in the road. I suppose I’m really lucky, but sometimes I felt/feel like this has all been a little too easy now that I’ve healed. You hear these stories of all the issues people can go through after this surgery, but other than the usual suspects like lactose intolerence and occassional dumping syndrome, I’ve been great!

The one problem I encountered in October was a stall in my weight loss. Prior to this, I was losing so much weight pretty steadily so I was weighing myself a few times a day just to see the change as it happened. Yes, I know this is not a good idea. Anyway, I also had been having a problem with the protein supplements that I was/am supposed to drink several times daily. At the time I was barely able to meet 2/3 of my daily protein needs from food, something that’s really typical, so the supplements are supposed to be consumed pretty steadily during the first year to avoid problems like a stall in weight loss, anemia and hair loss. To move past it, I really focused on eating as much protein as possible as well as eating on schedule. I haven’t felt hunger since the surgery so it’s easy to forget to eat when I’m busy. The changes in diet really did work though, because I finally started losing weight again.

On the wedding front, October was filled with planning and crafting. We secured the church for May 6, 2012 and started looking at reception venues. We found a wonderful place in Old City that was a little new to hosting such large events, but we decided to start putting together a contract with them anyway because it has a lot of potential to be amazing. As it turns out, the person we were initially dealing with left the company and we were forced to deal with an interim person who really didn’t have a clue. I often felt like I was more prepared for our meetings than she, so I began looking for wedding coordinators online. Keep an eye out for November’s catch up to see where we landed with that! 🙂

So in addition to fatty and bridey stuff, October was busy with more job search. As I said, September started the process for my new job but October was really the bulk of all that drama. I interviewed three times and it clearly seemed like they were going to hire me, but then there was nothing – days and days, which ultimately became weeks, of waiting to hear where I stood. Finally on my birthday I found out that they were checking my references, what a birthday gift! To celebrate, I got a cold 😦 but I was fortunately finished with our Halloween costumes which were thoroughly enjoyed at the party we attended. We were pretty cute Smurfs. 🙂

All in all, October was a good month. Things kept moving forward and we had fun which is all we can ask for. Looking back, I doubt I enjoyed it as much as I should have but in there I can find a lesson that will prove helpful on our wedding day: enjoy every moment.  That’s exactly what I plan to do.

Thanks for reading. -A

December 28, 2010. Tags: , . 2010. Leave a comment.