I am getting married in six months. According to Real Simple Weddings, here’s what I should be doing:
- Select and purchase invitations. Hire a calligrapher, if desired. Addressing cards is time-consuming, so you need to budget accordingly.
- Start planning a honeymoon. Make sure that your passports are up-to-date, and schedule doctors’ appointments for any shots you may need.
Shop for bridesmaids’ dresses. Allow at least six months for the dresses to be ordered and sized.
Meet with the officiant. Map out the ceremony and confirm that you have all the official documents for the wedding (these vary by county and religion).
Send save-the-date cards.
Reserve structural and electrical necessities. Book portable toilets for outdoor events, extra chairs if you need them, lighting components, and so on.
Book a florist. Florists can serve multiple clients on one day, which is why you can wait a little longer to engage one. Plus, at this point, you’ll be firm on what your wedding palette will be.
Arrange transportation. Consider limos, minibuses, trolleys, and town cars. (But know that low-to-the-ground limos can make entries and exists dicey if you’re wearing a fitted gown.)
Start composing a day-of timeline. Draw up a schedule of the event and slot in each component (the cake-cutting, the first dance).
I’m pretty tight on 1,3,6,7, & 8. # 4, meeting with the officiant, will probably happen in January after the hooplah of the holidays is over. Besides, now that band is almost done I will finally be able to peel myself out of bed on Sundays to attend church and I’d like to get that going again before I waltz in like a deadbeat and tell him how to marry us. #5, the Save the Dates, are in process. I, being a perfectionist, sent myself a test one just this morning. As soon as it arrives, unscathed, I think I’ll be shipping them off to my guests. #9, the day-of-timeline, has been on my mind for months. I have been thinking about the logistics of carefully orchestrating the moments of my big day. I still have nothing on paper, so I guess I should hit that up.
But the big whammy, #2, the honeymoon, is breaking my heart. We had such grand dreams. We thought it was possible. I’m pretty sure it is not. 😦 I want so much for our big day and the more I think about it, I would rather spend my money on that moment instead of a vacation. Plus, M is busting his buns to pitch in and I don’t want to over-tax him. I think we’ll probably end up finding a last-minute 4-night tropical thing a few weeks after the wedding, and will maybe plan a big trip for our 6 month or 1 year anniversary. But I’m not going to lie, there’s a little bit of sting knowing that I won’t be jetting off immediately following my ceremony to lands afar. But then again, who can do that anymore if they’re paying for their wedding themselves?
Either way, I am happy that I only have 6 months left. Yes, it’s stressful, but I’m ready for it to happen. I’m ready for my planning to end and just let the chips fall where they may. A constant worrier, I know I will be in knots up until the moment I walk down the aisle, but I’m still psyched for its end. Correction: I’m excited for our real life to begin. In the interim, if you know of any cheap last-minute travel sites or you’re willing to lend us your awesome cabana/timeshare/ grandma’s house in a cool location, hook a sister up! We’re not picky, we just require wifi and a big tub. 🙂
Thanks for reading! – A
After my first 16-hour day, of which I have 9 more in the next 11 days, I am sipping my Venti iced coffee with two shots of espresso and thinking that I have bit off more than I can chew. I am actually looking forward to my doctor’s appointment tomorrow morning because it means I can sleep in until 7:30! I do believe that all this is for the greater good of my wedding, but while I am in it and currently so simultaneously tired and wired on caffeine I do believe that I wish I could crawl under my desk and never come back out.
See you on the other side of this, if I make it.
Thanks for reading. – A
I recently bought a bar of solid shampoo at LUSH, this wonderful place where everything smells fantastic and makes you wish you had a tub the size of the one in Pee Wee’s Big Adventure. I was told that this shampoo is great for traveling because it’s not liquid, so no TSA problems. As I scrubbed up with it this morning, I was listening to the radio where they were talking a lot about the recent issues in Egypt, and one person mentioned how frightening it must be to have been vacationing on a trip of a lifetime to see the pyramids to then be completely cut off from communication and have no idea how to get home. The conversation quickly turned to traveling mishaps and what it’s like to be stranded or helpless in an area where things are horrible – and how sometimes the very thing that drew you to a place turned out to be the reason why it’s so dangerous.
I started thinking about places to travel, especially for a honeymoon, that would seem great but have potential to be totally terrifying. And as luck would have it, someone else thought about this too. Check out this article, Vacations Turned Deadly: The Most Dangerous Honeymoon Spots! It may have you rethinking where your fantastic, romantic getaway should be.
Thanks for reading! – A